California Musician Helps LGBT Couple After Homophobic Vendor Walks Out
Moses Lin Music
Moses Lin of Moses Lin Music shares his recent experience performing last minute for a wedding after a musician refused to perform ceremony music for a gay couple in Southern California. This is his story:
"It was 11am and I was answering emails at a local coffee shop when a musician called me and asked if I was available to perform a wedding that afternoon. I asked him why he was cancelling on his couple last minute and he told me that he just found out that the couple was gay, and because of his Christian faith, he was not comfortable performing their wedding. I was in shock. I didn’t think these situations still happened in 2021, especially in Southern California. I was furious at him for his blatant and unapologetic homophobia and his attempt at trying to paint himself as the victim in the situation.
Let’s get something straight. Love is love, and if you don’t believe that, you shouldn’t work in the wedding industry.
I rushed home, threw on a suit and drove a hundred miles to cover this wedding without even knowing if I’d be paid for that day. And on the drive, I realized that, as a straight male, I had never really been outspoken about being an LGBTQ+ ally. Was it possible that gay couples had looked at my Instagram or website and passed over it because they couldn’t find any clues that I supported them? Had I made their vendor search more difficult and stressful? Was my curated, politically neutral social media presence another reminder to them that there are people that will never publicly accept them?
During the wedding vows, one of the grooms said, “I’ll never forget the first time you held my hand, walking down 30th in North Park. I think I broke away because I was worried about being judged, but in that moment, I knew yours would be the hand I wanted to hold for the rest of my life”.
LGBTQ+ couples face judgement like this on a daily basis, but their biggest day should be one that is completely free of judgement. That is why allyship is so important. As vendors, we have a responsibility to create and uphold the culture within the wedding industry, and I believe that culture should be diverse and inclusive. It doesn’t matter if you are an ally, it matters if your couples can feel that you’re an ally."
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